“Patriarchy as a system has denied males access to full emotional well-being, which is not the same as feeling rewarded, successful, or powerful because of one’s capacity to assert control over others. To truly address male pain and male crisis we must as a nation be willing to expose the harsh reality that patriarchy has damaged men in the past and continues to damage them in the present. If patriarchy were truly rewarding to men, the violence and addiction in family life that is so all-pervasive would not exist.”
Understanding Patriarchy August 21, 2016
“Femernism” March 10, 2016
Tags: funny, laughs, women
Hello my long time wordypress friends (and fiends hehe)…..are you still out there? How are you all going?
Forgive me, it’s been a while eh?
A fellow activist, teacher and general great font of knowledge and friendship just shared this on Facebook (yes I have Facebook, do you?) and it says EVERYTHING just perfectly! Geez why bother writing anything myself when someone else can sum it up all so perfectly! Ah well one day I’ll get my writing finger on.
“Because remember that patriarchy’s bumming you as hard as it’s bumming us. We’re bulimic, objectified and under-promoted. You, meanwhile, are unable to talk about your feelings lest you get punched in the nuts by “a lad” telling you not to be “a bender”. You are unlikely to get custody of your kids, and are three times more likely to commit suicide. Feminism’s about sorting all this stuff out. Because it’s about equality. Not burning the penises. I can’t emphasise enough how much it’s not about burning penises. No burnt penises here.”
Check this out, you’ll be glad you did 🙂
From Chiapas to Rojava: Seas Divide Us, Autonomy Binds Us February 18, 2015
A way forward for us all – From Chiapas to Rojava: Seas Divide Us, Autonomy Binds Us.
March Australia Coffs Harbour September 1, 2014
Tags: coffs harbour, jetty foreshores, legislation, march australia, photos, Politics, protest, rallies, strikes, Unions
Yesterday we held another March Australia Rally down at the Foreshores in Coffs Harbour.
The research I do for this blog has led me to getting involved with March in March as it was called back then.
I messaged ‘March in March to ask if there was going to be a march in Coffs Harbour and ended up starting the Facebook page for Coffs Harbour, asking for and finding an organising committee. Be careful what you ask sometimes!
Luckily I ended up with a great committee!
This is a person who has avoided committees like the plague most of her life, so it’s kind of funny really.
Something that strikes me as odd, as although the first committee had men on board who were very helpful at first, have all fallen away now and we are a completely female crew.
I’m talking about people who actually attend meetings.
On the big day a couple of men lurkers (I created a secret underground page to keep members informed) did come and physically help, bless ’em. Two muso’s and a fellow armchair activist and page commenter. Thanks guys!
‘March in March’ was renamed ‘March Australia’, when we realised this wasn’t going to be a one off bit of activism.
I was a bit an armchair activist, getting tired of clicking on petitions.
Though they do have their value I felt that actually going out into the world to protest bodily would have more of an impact.
It’s amazing what a terrible government can do for ones motivation and so I have come to the conclusion that our Mr Abbott and his Coalition (or ‘Coal-ition’) has to be thanked for providing the impetus for many many people in Australia to get politically motivated once more.
It is a phenomenon that I’ve noticed in my lifetime though. Whenever ever they got into power, there are always demonstrations. Once upon a time when the word ‘Union’ wasn’t so uncool (oh how people have been brainwashed), we’d be seeing people go on strike and protesting in the streets.
Not anymore, we only protest now, strikes are rare.
A bona fide means of workplace bargaining destroyed by greedy profit mongers, who will never be happy no matter how much they roll in mountains of cash like a bunch of demented Scrooge McDucks.
That was the whole reasoning behind the brainwashing as I see it and it saddens me to say it’s worked. People don’t know their arse from their elbows anymore, there’s SO much misinformation around.
Now they are attempting to legislate against protesting, it’s begun already in Victoria. It’s only a matter of time for the rest of the country if that succeeds.
One by one they – the governments, that we elect – are taking our hard won rights away from us.
They do this without any sense of remorse or empathy, in the interests of big business and not us – the people who vote them in.
None of it makes sense.
Our world is not making sense.
The storyteller or viewer in me gets suspicious.
If this was a movie plot or a storyline, the reason would be that something terribly wrong was going on behind the scenes.
I am beginning to fall into despair that things are going to get worse.
I despair at this Patriarchal, Imperialist, Capitalist world we find ourselves entrenched in and need release from.
The Feminine principle has been deliberately crushed to make all of this possible and I do realise that males are also suffering.
Sometimes things have to get bad before they get better, I hold onto this.
Check out the photos taken by a professional photographer by the name of Drew Hopper on the day by following the link below;
*update more photos from our local newspaper;
Thanks for reading my blog.
Creative Solutions? July 11, 2014
I was driving the other day listening to a radio interview with a woman who had done a lot of research and written a book about survival.
Various case studies were mentioned involving being shipwrecked and having to fight for survival.
They talked about what happened on the Titanic and illustrated with some stories about who got on the lifeboats and the psychology and after effects of that.
They talked about those ill-fated journeys to the North and South Poles.
They talked about planes crashes and even ‘Lord of the Flies’ got a mention.
They talked about the ramifications of cannibalism and the woman said she’d happily be eaten if it meant the survival of some.
They then summed it up by talking about leadership and lack of leadership.
The ones who had the best chance of survival had leaders who were elected and if there was dispute quickly facilitated another election, just to be sure and quell discontent.
The ones who survived had leaders who gave them something to do, were kept busy. The one instance that I do remember was rebuilding their broken ship and saving themselves by sailing it home.
Now I can’t for the life of me recall the name of the book but if anyone knows it please let me know, because I want to read it!
I’m not sure if they’ve purposely written it as an analogy of societies and governments but that’s the conclusions I’m coming to about it.
A good strong leader gives the people something to do – hope and faith that all will be well and it is.
Conversely a bad leader creates disharmony, doubt, fear, anger and everyone dies.
I will leave it up to you as to who I think is being the bad leader right now.
I see depressed scared worried people all around me and it’s difficult to be NOT affected by it.
I also see wonderful, creative, hard-working, caring people all around me and they do give me hope.
It also occurred to me the other day that we are the authors of our own stories and it’s up to us to create our good reality.
The horrible thing about what’s going on now is we ‘seem’ to be disempowered and living in anger, disbelief and fear. My conclusion about that is, that it’s largely a deliberate tactic to control us.
Look at say Boxing, Cricket or Football, they say nasty things to their opponents to unsettle them and gain the upper hand. Can you see where I’m going here?
What would happen if we chose to disengage from that game of control, if we refuse to be angry or fearful?
It might free up our minds for some really creative solutions.