The beginnings of our society’s rituals of submission?
I have very vivid and uncomfortable memories of being asked for and being pressured by Aunties, Cousin’s and perhaps my mother to kiss a man I didn’t know (my Uncle) as a little girl.
I had always assumed it was my acute sensitivity was what made me uncomfortable about that but now when I think about it in this light it was a natural reaction.
“The ritual of demanding affection from children on cue is one of those tiny, everyday little lessons in which we teach children — especially girls — that they are to tailor their emotional responses to please others”.
Even a small child has a sense of boundaries and that felt like a violation of free will to me.
On the surface seemingly an innocuous request with undertones not understood by any present at the time and possibly not even now.
The dawning of realization’s by myself that things aren’t as they should be, things just didn’t seem fair.